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Happy birthday. Sadly the first spoken regret is something I’m struggling with and will unfortunately for life. When you are in the thick of people pleasing you will lose out on so many opportunities. You don’t realize it until you are well past over it.

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Thank you for the bday wishes, Miriam. It’s very difficult to break the cycle when you’re a people pleaser but I do my best to approach each day with a different mindset. Some days are much easier than others. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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I was forced to break it when I had no choice but to give up my son. But it didn’t end overnight. It crumbled over time and that was very hard too. But I wasted decades of my life with it and lost so much. Lots of grief with this.

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Grief is understandable given what you experienced. I lost much time due to illness and while I can’t get the time back but I try to make each day count.

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I am trying to accept that I may never live most of my dreams and time did pass me by. I know this is a morbid way to look at things but I also know that once it’s my time I will no longer care about missed opportunities. So in the end what is lost anyway?

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Not morbid. It’s realistic and a view I share, especially at my age!

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Happy Birthday Tracy! 🥳🎂🥂

A lovely post, that really resonated with me as I embark on my mid-life Gap Year, why wait until you have to stop, do it now. 😃👍👏

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May you celebrate well into the evening, best wishes on your “B” Day! Your words are a gift to us all.

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Thank you, Marjorie! You’re always so kind with your comments and I appreciate your ongoing support.

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Jan 28Liked by Tracy Mansolillo

Thank you Tracy for another thought provoking article. And, oh yes, Happy Birthday and best wishes for many more ‘trips around the sun’!

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Thank you, Ray for reading, commenting and offering your support every step of the way.

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Thank You Kate! Exactly. I wish you much joy and happiness as you embark on your Gap year. How exciting.

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